“No one can give away wisdom, a teacher can only lead you to it via words, hoping you will have the courage to look within yourself and find it, inside your own consciousness… Beyond the words” – SydneyBanks.
Having been on a spiritual path for many years, I came across a simple and yet profound psychological/spiritual understanding of how life works, that has changed everything for me.
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Coming to understand and trust how our mind and body communicate harmoniously to create our experience of life, has led me to a growing awareness of the messages the differing sensations I feel are telling me, and to the realisation that in the times I don’t feel so good, it is a sign I am most likely lost in worrying thinking, which is causing stress related hormones to flood my body.
By simply allowing my focus of attention to come back into the present moment, my mind and body settles and new thought begins to flow. While we can’t choose the thoughts that come into our awareness, we can choose which ones we give our attention to.
We feel 100% of our thoughts, how many of them are you suffering from unnecessarily?
Thoughts are transient energy, they come and go. We have thousands of thoughts flowing through our minds every day. It is only when we focus in on one, analysing it, or making it into a problem we feel the need to solve, it keeps us stuck on.
This type of thinking limits our ability to find new ways of dealing with challenges we may be facing. It also limits our creativity, ideas and our beliefs. Which can lead us to create obstacles we put in the way of reaching a goal we wish to achieve but “think” is impossible.
We often find it hard to understand why others don’t perceive or feel the the same fears we do. For example, there are many people too terrified to fly, they can only see the possibility of a disaster in their mind, and often experience sensations of anxiety and panic at the very thought of flying.
Whereas others view flying the same as any other form of transport. They have a place to go and just see it as a way to get there, some even enjoy it. So what is the difference between them?
It is simply how we “think” about flying, and the feelings that come with that thinking. If the thinking is fearful, our brain triggers the stress response.
The stress response, or more commonly known as, the fight/flight response, is our bodies emergency reaction system.
The stress response includes physical and thought responses to your perception of various situations. When the stress response is triggered, your body releases the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, which give you the extra strength and energy to do whatever needs to be done to survive whatever you are facing. Your organs are programmed to respond in certain ways to situations that are deemed threatening or challenging, all of which happens automatically, regardless to whether it is an imagined or real threat.
When we play out our thoughts in our mind, we experience the emotional sensations they evoke in our body. Most of which is carried out subconsciously.
Being aware that our thoughts are formless energy, shaped to look and feel real by our imagination, means we no longer have to take them so seriously.
What is our sub-conscious mind?
Research has shown we spend 95% of our time in our sub-conscious mind, which psychology describes as the part of the mind that is not currently in focal awareness.
Our subconscious mind has what is called a homeostatic impulse, meaning it keeps your body temperature at 37 degrees Celsius, keeps you breathing regularly and keeps your heart beating at a certain rate.
All of which is amazing, however it also keeps you thinking and acting in a manner consistent with your conditioning, which is what you have been taught, your cultural and societal beliefs, and any traumatic events you may have experienced in the past.
All of your habits of thinking and behaving are stored in your subconscious mind. It has memorised all of your comfort zones and works to keep you there. Which is not conducive to growth and change.
Coming to understand that thoughts and long held beliefs can dissolve in an instant, means you no longer need to suffer them, or let them sabotage your hopes and dreams.
How often does your over-thinking get triggered by people or situations?
We all have stories we tell ourselves when dealing with someone we perceive as “difficult” or something we perceive as a “problem” or “obstacle” in our lives.
Our minds are very good at visualising worst case scenarios, especially when trying to figure out how an interaction with someone might go, or what the outcome of a situation that is troubling us might be.
These often habitual stories we go over and over in our mind, are usually based on our past experiences.
But how many times have you tried to figure out how to manage or fix a person or situation, getting caught up in a storm of thoughts and worries in your mind, resulting in feelings of anxiety, despair, guilt, shame, fear or anger, for the situation to turn out completely different to how you thought?
I have experienced this many times, finally realising, predictions of the future, rarely turned out as I imagined, and as we can’t actually predict the future, why suffer trying to do so?
When I catch myself doing this now, I let my thinking settle, and in the quiet space it leaves, I will most likely have a clarifying insight, leading to the steps I need to take to help the situation, or the realisation that it is only my thinking causing me to believe there is a problem.
Are you hypnotised by your thinking?
Have you ever caught yourself in a thought storm, feeling like you’ve been suddenly woken up out of an hypnotic state?
This has happened to me many times, especially while driving. I often find myself nearing my destination with no recollection of the journey there.
In the past I would have berated myself when I’d get lost in negative thinking, annoyed that I could not keep control of my thoughts, however, in this new understanding of how our mind works and the knowledge, I don’t have a choice of which thoughts pop into my consciousness, only the ones I give my attention to, has brought me great relief.
Realising it is only when I imagine my thoughts into a story I believe to be true, that they can hurt me by subconsciously acting on them, or staying stuck in the troubling ones, such as fear, anxiety or anger, which produce the stress hormones Cortisol and Adrenalin for the fight or flight response I don’t actually need.
Now as I awake from this kind of thinking, I’m more aware and compassionate in my self-talk. I no longer try to control or monitor my thoughts, or change the negative thoughts to positive ones as quickly as possible, all of which was draining my energy, in the times I’m not feeling so good, understanding I’ve dropped out of awareness and am lost in low mood thinking, allows me to fall back into awareness, which always brings about more peaceful sensations.
How many hours a day are you at peace?
Our default state of mind is one of peace, with loving, light-hearted feelings. Know that, this state of being is available to all, we have the capacity to return to this state, the one before our intellect, before our experiences in life, before our learning and our belief systems.
Our mind often becomes overactive with thinking that makes us “feel” fearful or insecure, we are capable of imagining the worst possible outcome to any situation, causing us to have a lot of unnecessary worry. Worrying doesn’t make us any safer, instead it keeps us locked in feelings of anxiety, robbing us of our peace of mind.
Understanding our thinking creates sensations in our body, gives us good reason to be in awareness of them, when we let go of our anxious thinking, instead, letting our thoughts flow, (imagine them as clouds floating by in the sky) it automatically brings us back into our natural state of peace. Within this space we have greater access to our innate wisdom, which has the answer to any question we may be seeking.
As we are all unique in our thinking, no other person can fully understand what’s going on in our mind!
Our thoughts about life have been individually shaped by our childhood, culture, levels of learning and our life experiences, all of which leads us to our own unique version of how the world looks.
I am happy to say through my understanding of how my mind works, my world looks a lot brighter and a lot less scary than before. I now experience life with less fear, pessimism and turbulence than before, I am so much more grateful and hopeful, I am more at ease and approach life in a more graceful, lighthearted way, enjoying a much more peaceful mind.
What I have learned most throughout this journey is, no one else has the answer that is right for you. You must look within, as that is where the answers to all of your questions lie.
Also, being in our most natural state of ease, aligned to our intuition, and allowing our innate intelligence to flow, expands our awareness, making it easier to drop back into our innate Well-Being at any moment throughout our day, no matter what the noise, be it from our inner turmoil or perceived outer environment.
Which leaves you with greater space for insight, inspiration and creativity for whatever you are looking to experience in your life.
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Thank you for reading.
Namaste- I honour the place in you, in which the entire universe resides. I honour the place in you, of love, of light, of truth and of peace. And when you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.